Perhaps this year you would like to get married, start a family, or invest in your first home together as a couple. Whatever your goals, take time to figure out what you want as a couple and what you need as an individual.
Gay and lesbian parents better for children
Gay parents, such as singer Elton John and his husband David Furnish, are often scrutinized in their role as parents. Politicians, including Republican candidate Rick Santorum have even gone as far as to say children are better off with a parent in the prison system than to be raised by a lesbian couple. Research however, suggests otherwise. Psychologist Abbie Goldberg from Clark University in Massachusetts claims her findings suggest gay parents tend to be ‘better’ parents in that they are actively choosing parenthood. The process for them to become parents in the first place is more complicated, traditionally, than a heterosexual couple. Another point she brings up is that many gay parents also provide their children with talents heterosexual parents might not be able to.
Goldberg shares her insights in one LiveScience article:
Gay parents “tend to be more motivated, more committed than heterosexual parents on average, because they chose to be parents,” said Abbie Goldberg, a psychologist at Clark University in Massachusetts who researches gay and lesbian parenting. Gays and lesbians rarely become parents by accident, compared with an almost 50 percent accidental pregnancy rate among heterosexuals, Goldberg said. “That translates to greater commitment on average and more involvement.”
With the growing number of children in the foster care system, the LiveScience article also points out that gay parents are responsible for helping thousands of children in need who have been stuck in the system. Children adopted by gay and lesbian couples included minority children and children with special needs.
One researcher, David Brodinsky, of the Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute shares:
“When you think about the 114,000 children who are freed for adoption who continue to live in foster care and who are not being readily adopted, the goal is to increase the pool of available, interested and well-trained individuals to parent these children,” Brodzinsky said.
Check out the LiveScience article for more information on the benefits gay parents pose for children. What are your thoughts? What do you think of gay and lesbian couples becoming parents?