Sharing experiences through story telling helps you establish a baseline for how you express yourself with someone you want to date. In your story telling, be honest and colorful.
On Being Gay: Your choice, not your parents
Many are criticizing celebrity actress Cynthia Nixon, of Sex in the City and most recently Wit, for her words regarding her choice to be a lesbian. Words such as these are looked upon unfavorably in the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender) LGBT community, since most activists feel that sexuality and your sexual orientation are biologically rooted in your psyche. As a LGBT activist herself, Nixon has influenced many movements, including the gay marriage movement in New York, as a participant with the Human Rights Campaign. Having spoken out during several rallies to date since she came out as a gay woman and breast cancer survivor, she has been revered as somewhat of an idol in the gay and lesbian community. Do her words that sexuality or sexual orientation is a choice change that status?
The debate on sexual orientation being biological or a choice is one as old as time. In recent years, some research has indicated that there are biological roots to sexual orientation. Some research findings show that there are some indications of biological markers that give someone the propensity to be gay, lesbian, or bisexual later in life. Then again, there is also a large body of research that tells a different story – pinning sexual orientation strictly on life choices. Cynthia Nixon recently stated she has lived both as straight married woman and as a gay woman in a serious same-sex relationship. Does this mean that she is an example of lesbian woman that ‘choose’ to be gay? Or she an exception to the rule?
Nixon’s actual statement:
“I’ve been straight and I’ve been gay, and gay is better.”
Some studies indicate there are actual brain differences that point to sexual orientation being biologically pre-determined. Yet other articles, from religious sources, strongly state being gay or lesbian is not biological, and is indeed a lifestyle choice. Studies continue to be conducted on a daily basis into this seemingly puzzling mystery for some. What’s your take on things? What research have you found that convinces you one way or the other? Sources: ABC Action News, Catholicculture.org, University of Texas