Coping with stress together makes marriage stronger
|March 8, 2012||Posted by BPSTherapy under All Topics, Dating Trends, Marriage Trends, Online Dating, Relationships, Therapy|
A previous article discussed how being empathetic to your partner’s needs and being able to read them when something is wrong alluded to the fact that knowing what is happening with your partner can lead to relationship satisfaction.
Research released to USA Today by investigators at the online dating website eHarmony.com indicates that the way in which you and your partner support each other during stressful times may also be an indicator of whether your dating relationship or marriage will survive in the long term.
Many people think that facing hardship in a marriage or dating relationship can weaken your passion or sense of connectedness. The eHarmony.com findings indicate otherwise. Gian Gonzaga, one of their leading researchers comments:
“This points to the fact that your partner really has a big impact on how you’re going to respond,” he says.
“Are you compatible in the way you give support? If you’re someone, when stressed out, who needs a partner to listen to you vent and manage your emotions, you need a partner to do that well, as opposed to a partner who is good at giving advice and finding solutions but is really bad at giving emotional support. You want to make sure those ways of having support from a partner are going to mesh with each other.”
With that said, how have you done in your marriage or dating relationship in terms of supporting each other during times of stress? Do your styles of coping and being there for one another align or do you need some work on this area? If you find that your approaches differ vastly, consider discussing areas of improvement with each other.
Chances are your partner may not know what you need when you are in a state of vulnerability. Getting things out in the open may help you both feel better. With time, you will learn what works and what doesn’t; weeding out ineffective methods of supporting each other will allow for the development of stronger modes of emotional support down the road.
Source: USA Today