First date jitters: Be prepared for anything

First date jitters tipsChances are when you go on your first date with someone, you usually hope for the best, but you never know what might happen!

First date jitters can get the best of you!

This is not to say that you should expect everything to go wrong, but anticipate that either nature or human error will eventually change something in your plan.

As a pair of singles out on the town, you never know what the day will bring.

Try to head out a bit early if you are meeting your date somewhere. This will help you get there on time, perhaps beating the traffic or some other mishap you might find along the way.

Pack an umbrella if you even slightly suspect it might begin to rain later – being in soggy clothes for the duration of  a date can make you plain cranky!

First dates can be quite memorable, especially if you try to make the most of them. What was your first date like with your spouse or partner?

What are some things that happened that you were not expecting? How did you handle these unexpected surprises or first date jitters? Did they make your date better or worse?

At the end of the day, being prepared, coupled with a positive attitude will help you get out of a sticky situation, or a first date will of crazy unexpected moments!

Can you remember a time when you experienced first date jitters? How did you handle it?

 

Demi Lovato not dating Niall Horan, happy and single now

 

Demi Lovato Getty Images  - Steven Lawton “Skyscraper” singer Demi Lovato, currently an “X Factor” judge went on record as saying she is not officially dating One Direction singer Niall Horan. Demi had been chatting with Niall via Skype and many assumed they were an official couple.

Realizing her mental health and sense of well-being are important for her, she explains she realizes she would like to be alone for a while. Demi recently came out as having lived with eating disorders, bipolar disorder, and self-harm behaviors for years.

In an interview with Teen Vogue Demi explained the situation between her and Niall and how she feels about working on the “X Factor” judges’ panel:

“He’s a really awesome, sweet guy,”

“But he’s not my boyfriend…I’m in a place right now where I really need to focus on myself.”

“Obviously, I’m still going to like people—or love them—but I need to not be in a relationship for a while because I need to be OK with being alone, first,” she adds. “I’m really happy right now. I never thought it was possible to be happy because of how depressed I was my entire life. But I feel so incredible. It’s like living in a dream.”

It seems Demi Lovato has gained control over her mental health. While struggles with eating disorders, bipolar disorders, and self-harm behaviors can be lifelong challenges, they are controllable.

Watch a video of Demi Lovato sing “Skyscraper”:

Video Credit: YouTube

Sources: US Weekly, MTV UK, Huffington Post
As a single young woman in Hollywood, Lovato stands to gain a great deal if she focuses on her mental health. It seems in the meantime, she will maintain a healthy friendship with One Direction singer Niall Horan.  What do you think of Demi’s dating decision?

Sugar Daddies pay for anything, Sugar Babies live the life

 

dating trends younger women older men sugar daddies sugar babiesSome young women are increasingly taking advantage of older wealthy men in order to have their financial needs met.

Younger women dating older men not only find they are becoming more financially stable, but they are also achieving life goals at a much quicker pace than their peers dating men of their same age.

One article by ABC News highlights how Sugar Babies enjoy spending time with Sugar Daddies because they are able to be themselves and benefit financially. Younger women dating older men is nothing new – this dating trend has been around as long as men and women have been dating.

What is an interesting, somewhat modern twist, is that young women are intentionally seeking these men out to meet their career and educational goals.

An interesting distinction made by one of the Sugar Daddies, Tommy, is the notion that there exist different types Sugar Babies.

He reflects: ”There are sugar babies on different levels,” Tommy said. “You know, you’ve got your Wal-Mart sugar babies and then you got your Neiman Marcus sugar babies, and it’s which ones you want to shop at.”

It’s is interesting to see that women are being classified into types of ‘retail’ labels, all based on what they seek in terms of material or financial gain. Are women become more materialistic as time goes by?

One Sugar Babies chimes in: ”Sometimes being in a sugar baby-sugar daddy relationship, it does get lonely for me because I can’t always– That person can’t always be there for me,” she said. “[But] they respect me. They let me be myself. It’s the dream.”

How are the ideas of a healthy dating relationship changing with the changes in economic goals throughout the globe? Is the dating relationship, or dating arrangement between the Sugar Daddies and Sugar Babies the way we are going to see relationships go in the next few years? What do you think?

Source: ABC News

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Dating tips: Interesting stories to share on your first date

 

dating advice dating tips datingrail co uk first dateWhen you first meet someone you may not be sure what to share with them. Dating is sometimes a tricky experience for many new couples.

One dating tip that will help you establish a connection, with a potential partner is to share an interesting story about yourself. Early experiences, something you can do that others find challenging, or retelling a family vacation, are all worthwhile stories to share on one of your first dates.

Sharing experiences through story telling helps you establish a baseline for how you express yourself with someone you want to date. In your story telling, be honest and colorful.

By colorful, I mean share your experience with passion and detail. By telling these stories on your first date, your new potential partner get an idea of who you are and what they are getting into!

What are some good stories to share on a first date? Here are some ideas:

  • How did you learn how to drive? Were you a natural or did you terrify your parents when you hit the open road for the first time?
  • Can you tie a cherry stem into a knot?
  • Are you into a special series of books? Perhaps you started reading 50 Shades of Grey and want to share what you learned with your new special date.
  • Have you traveled a lot? What was the most interesting place you traveled to?
  • What is the strangest food you have eaten?

Each of these story ideas might help you as you set out to get to know each other on your first few dates together. Starting a dating relationship is an exciting time. Take advantage of this excitement and share a great story on your first date today!

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What interesting stories have you shared on a first date? How did your date react?

One Direction singer Skype dates Demi Lovato

 

Demi Lovato Getty ImagesDisney actress and Skyscraper singer Demi Lovato is rumored to be dating One Direction singer Niall Horan.

The two are reportedly communicating via Skype – a chat program that enables you to both see and hear the person with who you are chatting.

Due to their busy schedules, it seems to be working for them.

The What Makes You Beautiful singer shared some of his thoughts on the potential of his  communication with the Lovato and how it might lead to a dating relationship, during an on air interview with America’s Top 40 host Ryan Seacrest on June 14, 2012.

During the interview, Horan reflected on how he met Lovato and where he thinks his online dates with the Camp Rock star may lead:

“We’ve spoken alright, yeah… So, I got in contact with her, she’s really nice. Um, I don’t know what’s going to happen.”

It’s a start! Both young stars have great potential in making big in the entertainment business. Each one is pursuing their individual career goals and may eventually end up in a memorable Hollywood romance!

Video Credit: Music video by One Direction performing What Makes You Beautiful. (C) 2011 Simco Limited under exclusive license to Sony Music Entertainment UK Limited

Source: Celebuzz

What do you think of how Demi Lovato and Niall Horan met? Have you started dating someone through Skype or another chat program? How did that turn out?

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Celebrity relationships: Kim Kardashian rules Kimye

Denver Nuggets v Los Angeles Lakers - Game Seven Getty ImagesIn dating relationships and marriage, partners will inevitably hold different roles.

While you may strive for equality, there may be an imbalance in the sense of ‘freedom’ you enjoy with your partner. In one celebrity relationship, that of Kim Kardashian and Kanye West, otherwise known as Kimye, some are saying it is apparent who ‘wears the pants’ when it comes to setting ground rules for socializing with others at the same event.

Reality TV star Kim Kardashian, in the news for her short-lived marriage to NBA basketball player Kris Humphries, supposedly holds the dominant role in her dating relationship with rapper Kanye West (currently on tour with Jay-Z), despite his somewhat intimidating appearance to others!

Dynamics in dating relationships will invariably differ from relationship to relationship. Where you come from and your worldview will impact how you treat others, both in a personal setting as well as in a professional environment. In Kim’s case, she has always been part of a big family who holds power over others – might this be what dictates how she views her dating relationships, and past celebrity marriage as well?

Rapper Kayne West has gotten in trouble in the past for speaking his mind in public events, at the most inopportune time.

Could this be what inspires Kim’s efforts to ‘rein him in’? In a recent party, Kim was spotted pulling Kanye aside, giving him ‘stern instructions’, and Kanye was observed following them. One source shares:

“Kanye was loving it on the dance floor with Jay—Z and spoke at length to Stella about fashion.”

“Kim was all over Kanye at the start, but when he started to mix with other people she had a stern word and took him away from the party. He followed her orders with minimum fuss. He knows the deal.”

Source: Entertainmentwise.com

What do you think this says about Kim and Kanye’s dating relationship? Is Kim in control of Kanye’s behaviors?

Or is Kim Kardashian trying to keep up appearances, as she does in her reality TV show Keeping up with the Kardashians?

Either way, it seems the chemistry their share outweigh any efforts Kim makes to keep things to her liking.

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Dating a partner who is still in the closet

 

coming out of the closet in the closetDating someone that is still in the closet can pose challenges when trying to establish a healthy gay or lesbian relationship. If you throw in the fact that you want to marry this person, or be in a same-sex marriage, things may get even more complicated!

Gay and lesbian couples in which a partner is not openly gay can create tension, not only within the relationship, but in their immediate social network.

While at first glance the idea of being with someone who is in the closet might scare you off, there are different ways to look at these circumstances. Here are some tips on being with a partner who is still in the closet about being gay, lesbian, or bisexual.

Have you considered that perhaps your partner is not ready to come out to their family and friends? While they are open with you and maybe your closest friends, they are not really ready to discuss their sexuality with ‘the world’.  Just the fact that they have trusted you with their sexual orientation privacy says a lot.

Being there for the person throughout their process is something that can prove invaluable in time. Social support, especially from a trustworthy partner can be a deal breaker in a healthy dating relationship or marriage down the road.

Has your partner ever tried to come out to anyone? Negative reactions from others in the early coming out process can turn someone off from further sharing their sexual orientation. Some teens in high school shy away from even discussing these topics for fear of bullying or losing their so-called friends. Does this apply to your partner?

Offer feedback on how you think coming out will help your partner. How did it help you? Sexual orientation and identity development is a unique process for each person.

Someone coming to terms with the fact that they want to come out to ‘the world’ about their sexuality could literally take years to fully complete the process and even then they might feel wholly comfortable with the idea.

The best you can do as a partner, if you are okay with dating someone that is still in the closet is to offer your unconditional support. If you find this is something you cannot do, then perhaps this is not the relationship for you.

Are you currently in gay or lesbian dating relationship? As a lesbian couple, do you struggle with one of you being in the closet? How do you deal with it?

Online dating websites screen profiles for safety

 

online dating textdating caMany singles rely on online dating websites to find a new healthy dating relationships or even marriage. With increased media attention on the dangers of online dating, some singles have become skeptical with the process. Some women have actually been attacked by their online dating match once they meet – a fear that perhaps sits at the back of the mind of someone meeting a potential love match for the first time.

Companies such as eHarmony and Match.com have both agreed to screen their singles that creates personals ads or listings on their dating sites. With increased choices in potential dating partners comes increased risk. Will these screenings help?

A Huffington Post article highlights why the companies reached the agreement with the California Attorney General. After a woman was sexually assaulted, her case reached the California courts and scared many potential online daters. With this news, the state and three major online dating sites, eHarmony, Match.com, and Spark Networks all agreed they would screen future clients from now on.

Online dating is a bit different from traditional dating in that you are never really sure the person with whom you are communicating online is the person you will meet in real life. What are some things you can keep in mind, in addition to knowing companies will screen their clients that may keep you safer in online dating? Here are a few tips:

  • Be cautious in what you share online. Guard personal information as much as you can to avoid any identify theft down the road if something happens.
  • Meet in a neutral location, not your home or theirs.
  • Let someone know that you will meeting another online dating single – this will ensure that someone else knows where you are and is available if you need them.
  • Take your time getting to know whoever you meet online. While you might be anxious to meet someone, it might prove more valuable and safer to you down the road if you take the time to really get to know them a bit more.

What are your thoughts on these online dating companies screening clients who create listings or personal ads on their online dating websites? Do you think this will create healthy dating relationships through safe love matches in the future? How will healthy dating relationships or marriages grow out of this decision?

Sources: Huffington Post

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Texting and email have become the norm when trying to contact others. More and more, we are seeing people connect with each other for business and personal reasons through these electronic mediums to establish and maintain healthy relationships. Even celebrities such as entertainer Skrillex with albums such as Scary Monsters & Nice Sprites began his dating relationship with Grammy award winning singer Ellie Goulding through an email.

In one article, Skrillex is quoted:

‘I sent her an e-mail, like, ‘I’m Skrillex, I don’t know if you know who I am, but I love your s**t. We started texting and talking on the phone.’

With technology on their side, it appears Skrillex and Ellie have been able to stay connected despite busy entertainment business lifestyles. Having made their celebrity relationship public in February 2012, the two seem to be doing well so far.

Online dating is also used by celebrities looking for a date. Actresses Jennifer Aniston of Just Go With It, and Demi Moore, recently divorced from actor Ashton Kutcher, have both taken to online dating websites to find a new relationship – how different is that from texting and sending an email? Think its more or less effective?

Texting has grown rapidly as a preferred method of communicating over the past few years. While it may not always be the ideal method of letting someone know how you feel about them, it’s a great way to open up the door to new relationships. Have you begun a relationship via a text message or email? How did that go?

Source: Entertainmentwise.com

Dating Trends: Ability to read your partner linked to happiness

In a dating relationship or marriage, its important to share both an emotional bond as well as a physical one. Research indicates that women in a relationship where their partner is in tune to their happiness as well as emotional pain are happier than women who have a partner that is basically clueless to how they feel.

This may seem like common sense to some, but many partners are pretty oblivious when it comes to their partner’s feeling.

One research study concluded that when a partner is emotionally involved both during good and bad times, the relationship is more likely to thrive. Researcher Shiri Cohen of Harvard Medical School shares:

“It could be that for women, seeing that their male partner is upset reflects some degree of the man’s investment and emotional engagement in the relationship, even during difficult times. This is consistent with what is known about the dissatisfaction women often experience when their male partner becomes emotionally withdrawn and disengaged in response to conflict,”

With that said, how can you be more in tune with your partner?

  • Ask them how they are feeling. If they seem a bit different to you, maybe they have something on their mind.  If you are unable to read them, this will help you get some insight into what is going on.
  • Offer to be there for them if they want to talk. Just because you ask, does not mean you wil get a response.
  • Listen to them if they decide to share their concerns on their own.
  • Communicate that you are there for them in both the good times and bad times.
  • Remind them of the good times you share and that you will see them through the bad times as well.

How are you doing in your relationship? Are you good at being there emotionally for your partner both when things are going well as well as when something needs improvement?

Source: American Psychological Association